This picture ignited something in me.
She closes her eyes and pouts her lips
Sharply turning her head to face the other side whilst her fro’ gently sways with her, she thinks ‘ I don’t need a relaxer my hair aint stressed out!’ and if she could add more ‘ do you know what relaxers do to our hair? You think its fun pouring sodium hydroxide which has a pH of about 10-14 on your scalp? In the name of beauty?’ go ahead! But not me child!’ But would probably answer ‘ I wanted to go natural’ to all the ‘looks’ she might get; the disapproving ones, the bewilderment ones and the plain ignorant ones too.
And lets not start on the comments! ‘Nappy hair girl? Really?’
‘your hair’s a mess boo, you want me to fix it? ( by fixing I really mean let me burn your hair straight?’ and the classic line from hairdresser’s themselves (which I have actually heard because it was said to me ) ‘natural hair is not good, it breaks your hair, your hair is weaker, don’t do it! Yh( and I should listen to you because??)
So forgive her if she shows you a bit of attitude. Her hair’s gotta breathe and so does she!
TWISTED LIKE A TWIST OUT
The misconception people have about natural hair amazes me, especially when we live in a world that Google is so easily accessible (lol). Whilst some people think natural hair consist mainly of big ol’ afros( which by the way is not true), others call it nappy( as to why you would want to compare your hair to something a baby wears I would not know or understand!) then there’s old African aunties ( not all of them but some of them) that think if you aint relaxed your hair, your hair is just going to start falling out ( LOL).
LETS SMOOTH THIS OUT
I have not been natural all my life. And I certainly don’t try and sell being natural to anyone either do I go over assertively about being natural or looking down on anyone who does relax their hair. Being natural or relaxing your hair is a choice, it does not mean we cant be friends but it does mean we cant share hair products(LOL, we can).
GOOD HAIR? GOOD HAIR!
And no, I’m not talking about Chris Rock’s good hair( not his own hair but his documentary on good hair). Good hair in my opinion- healthy hair, hair that you feel comfortable with NOT them, NOT they, BUT YOU, relaxed, natural, weaved, braided, twisted , loc’s anything you fancy, GOOD HAIR is your hair, your CHOICE.
The next time you see a sister rocking her natural fro’ best believe its coz her hair aint stressed! Because if she was, boyy would you be in trouble for staring. LOL.
And oh PLEASE DON’T EVER EVER TRY TOUCH A GIRL’S HAIR. LOOK AND APPRECIATE FROM A DISTANCE, INFACT IN YOUR HEAD IMAGINE ALL THE SCENARIOS WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO RUN YOUR HANDS THROUGH IT BUT IN REAL LIFE? KEEP YA HANDS IN YO POCKETS!